It’s not uncommon to run into trouble when trying to have sex and orgasm. Whether for the first time, or in the middle of a slump. There can be many things that contribute to not reaching climax, but when you’re experiencing anxiety about not being able to, it definitely doesn’t help. Since being told to ‘just relax’ rarely helps, below Athens escorts offer some actual advice on orgasming while masturbating.
What is masturbation?
Masturbation is the term given to the self-stimulation of the sexual organs to achieve orgasm. Orgasm is defined as the state a person where he/she reaches the peak of his/her sexual excitement. It is accompanied by feelings of immense physical pleasure and sensations. The body releases certain hormones and chemicals during an orgasm that results in rhythmic muscular contractions.
Men usually masturbate by either stroking the penis with the hand or with the help of a sex toy until the climax is achieved and ejaculation occurs. Men can also climax by the stimulation of the prostate. Women, meanwhile, usually masturbate by stroking or massaging their clitoris (the female equivalent of the penis, in terms of sexual pleasure) or by stimulating their G-spot (a sensitive area in the vagina) with the help of toys or their fingers. Here is a little more detail about the two types of female masturbation.
This is the most common and widely used masturbation technique by women. Most women use their fingers to massage and stimulate their clitoris. However, sex toys such as a vibrator can also be used to stimulate the clitoris. Most women experience a tingling sensation when they achieve an orgasm via the clitoris.
In this type of masturbation, women use a sex toy (like a dildo) to penetrate themselves. Vaginal masturbation is similar to intercourse as it involves penetration. The climax may be more intense compared to a clitoris orgasm especially if you manage to hit the G-spot. Some women experience multiple orgasms, which means they can climax more than once during a period of sexual activity. There are many sex toys that can be used for a pleasurable masturbation experience.
This is a less common form of female masturbation. However, you may get an explosive orgasm by using this technique. This is because, during anal stimulation, the G-spot gets indirectly stimulated through the walls of the rectum. Furthermore, the anus is very sensitive due to it having a lot of nerve endings.
- If you want to try this technique, you can follow the steps mentioned below:
- You should first clean out your rectum. This can be done by using a rectal douche or a water enema.
- Start by applying lube on the rectum and your toy or finger (be sure to do this as the anus does not self lubricate.
- After that, start massaging the outside of your anus before slowly inserting your hand or the toy. Do it very slowly and don’t try to force the toy or your hand in if it does not go in easily.
- After you have fully inserted your hand or the toy into the anus, start increasing the rhythm until you climax.
Get in Position
It may surprise some, but just as there are hundreds of sex positions for coupled sex, there is more than one position for solo sex as well. Some women began self-pleasuring at a young age, and may be used to grinding against things, while some who became familiar with the concept of masturbation before the practice may have had one particular concept of how it’s done (lying back on the bed, or in the shower, for example). Whether that has worked for you or not, it can be good to switch up from your usual stimulation to explore new sensations.
If you’ve always masturbated while lying in the tub, for instance, you might find orgasms come more easily when you’re standing. You can be lying back on the bed, you can be kneeling while holding onto your headboard, or even knelt forward as if you were receiving during doggy style; there are only two things that matter when you’re picking a position to masturbate in: that you can comfortably maintain it for a sustained amount of time and can stimulate yourself the way you want to be.
Set the Mood
Sexual desire is something that a whole lot of us stress about. Do we have too much? Not enough? Levels of sexual desire can depend on a slew of things, and we often talk about certain foods or vitamins that can boost our libido, but we don’t often talk about WHY our libidos can vary so much, and what we can do to put ourselves in the mood.
If you feel as though you’re never feeling horny enough to actually stop and focus on self-pleasure, try treating it as more of a prioritized activity in its own right. Maybe you just need to indulge in some external erotic stimulation to get your own desires going. That could mean lighting a candle and taking a bath, that could mean engaging in a naughty sexting conversation, or it could mean reading some erotic fiction. Engaging in this sort of content allows you to experiment with kinks and fantasies own your own so you can discover what it really is that makes you turns you on.
Just as our sexual education doesn’t often cover the finer points of masturbation (other than its healthy) it usually doesn’t cover the use of lube. In fact, many people assume that sexual lubricant is only needed for having anal sex, or that because vaginas are self-lubricating, there is something wrong with you for needing it during masturbation or sex. This is absolutely untrue, as many things, from hormonal contraception, age, or just our unique physiology can make our natural lubrication levels dissimilar. A good, water-based personal moisturiser will be not too runny and not too thick, and make stimulating yourself quite literally go more smoothly.